I remember learning from Pat Coombe, my daughters play school teacher about
balloons.
Draw a picture of a balloon on coloured paper for every significant person in
your life. Cut it out and stick it on the wall above your desk.
Now ask yourself the question. Every time I speak with these people, am I
inflating or deflating the balloon.
The funny thing I've noticed is that my balloon inflates or deflates in line
with those around me.