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Time to Think

Time to Think is Nancy Kline's core practice in its simplest form: two people, one talks and one listens without a single interruption, then they swap.

One figure speaks without interruption while the other listens, facing them, then the pair swaps roles.

1 Pick a partner 2 Thinker talks, timed 3 Listener attends only 4 Swap roles 5 Notice the difference
The paired listening exercise at the centre of Time to Think.

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How to run it

  1. Pick a partner and agree who thinks first.
  2. The thinker talks for a set time (start with 5 minutes); the listener says nothing.
  3. The listener gives attention only, no nodding to hurry, no filling silence.
  4. When the time's up, or the thinker stops naturally, swap roles.
  5. Notice how far the thinking went without a single question or comment.

A worked example

Situation. Camila Souza's two assistant managers at her homeware chain Casa Bela in Recife, Brazil, had stopped bringing her problems, because every conversation turned into her solving it before they'd finished the sentence.

Applied. She started five-minute paired listening sessions before each stand-up: one manager talks uninterrupted, she just listens, then they swap.

Result. Within a month her stockroom manager worked out the shrinkage problem herself, mid-sentence, in a way Camila's usual advice had never managed.

1 Pick a partner 2 Thinker talks, timed 3 Listener attends only 4 Swap roles 5 Notice the difference
Dom i Ogród: attending only, not fixing, was the change Kasia had to make.

The catch

It sounds almost too simple to work, which is exactly why most pairs cheat within the first minute; the listener asks a 'quick' question or offers a thought. It also needs two willing people; one skeptic in the pair kills it. And five minutes of true silence feels far longer than it sounds.

If the listener's silence still contains an opinion, the thinker will feel it and shrink their thinking to fit.

Origin: Nancy Kline